Surviving as a Scout parent
TROOP 1999's goal is to help your son become a young man of good character, with strong organizational and leadership skills. Boys who lose interest in Scouting tend to be those who are disorganized, lose things and don't know where they are headed. You can help your son avoid those traps with these proven ideas.
Scouts should keep track of their Scout materials and records. The Troop provides each Scout with a 3 ring binder to keep notes and communications that need to go home. This will help him keep what is immediately important, at his fingertips. Along his trail to Eagle, he will receive official "receipts" of his progress. This is where you can help. On your next shopping trip, get a 3 ring binder with some pockets. Plastic 8 1/2" x 11" baseball card sheets are the perfect size for Merit Badge and rank completion cards and un-sewn or un-worn patches. These binder pages are available at most office supply stores.
When your son earns his first rank advancement, he will attend a Court of Honor to receive his completion card. During that ceremony, the Scout's parent will also receive a pin. The Council store has a ribbon that moms can wear. This ribbon is a place to attach the pins. Moms should wear their ribbon for every Court of Honor. Since the pins are very small, the ribbon is also a good way to store them.
Write troop events from the troop calendar on your family calendar so conflicts can be minimized. Attendance is the key to keeping up, advancement and liking Scouting. The most up-to-date calendar is found on our website.
Attend the troop meetings and share your time and skills to strengthen the troop. You will know what is happening and how your Scout relates to your troop. You can help provide a more complete experience for your son if you are involved. Don't worry about not knowing much about Scouting, all the adult volunteers had to learn, too. Please don't be bashful. It is important to remember that every adult involved in the troop is a volunteer. Your help will be appreciated by each and every one.
Teach your Scout to call his leader (Patrol Leader, Senior Patrol Leader or Scoutmaster) if he won't be able to attend a scheduled activity.
It is very important that parents completely support their young Scout. It is not always easy, but support is a must. The following video is a demonstration of complete support. This father is an incredible hero. I know that none of us is faced with anything close, but if we have only a portion of the committment he has, our sons will have a successful, memorable scouting experience.
Registration and camping fees
Troop 1999's dues are $50 per year. That includes all Troop 1999 insignia plus all ranks, merit badges, other awards and a subscription to Boy's Life magazine. Adult registration is $10. The troop will pay the annual registration fee for all registered and actively involved adults.
The troop campouts are scheduled well in advance. The fee for any campout is due at lease 4 weeks in advance. Generally, the cost of a tent camping event is $15.00 and a cabin event is $25.00. This allows the PLC to organize the event. Money will be set aside for food, and each patrol will be responsible to purchase food according to their own menu. We have successfully used $8.00 per person for meals on a weekend outing. The food will be purchased a couple of days ahead of departure. Patrols are then responsible to cook their own meals and clean up afterwards.
When it is your Scout's turn to buy camp meals for his patrol, help him learn how to make good purchasing decisions (using coupons can help keep costs down). Costs should not exceed $8 per weekend per scout, except when special circumstances warrant more and we always know that in advance.
Summer Camp, and any other outings determined by the PLC will have varying costs. We strive to have a $0 balanced budget for all regular outings. We are not a profit making group, nor are we actively seeking to spend all of our money. We make a conscious effort to break even with all events.
Fundraising
Participate in fundraisers. Registration fees alone do not support all the troop business, fundraising does. Rather than raise our registration fees, Troop 1999 uses fundraisers to provide additional operating capital and to generate funds for "the extras". Scouts have the opportunity to earn funds for their 'Scout accounts'. We participate in the annual Boy Scout Trails End Popcorn Sale. The funds generated allow us to provide Troop 1999 Scouts with a financially sound program and to purchase equipment when needed.
What should parents do?
Parents play an important and vital role in Scouting. You should encourage your son to work on advancement and to participate in Troop 1999's program. If you consider Troop 1999 as a glorified babysitting service, you can be certain your son will not think much better of the program and will most likely not be happy with his experience. Without exception, every Eagle Scout we've seen earn his rank has had at least one parent who has actively participated in the troop.
Scouts should not be expected to earn their Eagle rank without some help along the way. It is a tough set of requirements for them to fulfill, but the Eagle rank is within every Scout's reach. You are invited, and encouraged, to attend troop activities, from troop meetings to campouts, from Courts of Honor to committee meetings as often as your schedule will allow. Troop 1999 needs your active participation to keep the program alive.
Parents may not sign off any rank advancement or merit badge requirements. Advancement in all ranks is signed by the registered Scouts or Scouters appointed by the troop (typically these are uniformed adult leaders, Eagle Scouts and merit badge counselors).
Parents need to help provide transportation to and from campouts. You should not leave the Elks Lodge parking lot before a campout until transportation for all Scouts has been secured. We're all in this together, and together we have an awesome program.
If you have special skills, hobbies or abilities, please learn how you can become a merit badge counselor and share your knowledge with our Scouts.
There is always a need for more adult leaders. Each year, as older Scouts leave the troop, the troop also loses adult leaders. These positions must be replenished from among the parents of newer Scouts, or the life of the troop can be threatened. The Scoutmaster and Assistant Scoutmasters simply cannot do it all; nor can the Troop Committee. It takes many adults willing to enjoy the Scouting experience and provide a safe haven for youth to make a healthy, successful troop.
Going camping with the troop
Camping is the heart of Boy Scouting. While parents accompany our Scouts on campouts, all Scouts camp with their patrol and not with their parents or family members.
Policy Summary
What follows is a summary of our troop (and BSA) policies..
Scout Tenting & Meals - Scouts tent with their patrol in a patrol site separate from the other patrols. Patrols plan their own menus, and cook and eat together as a team. Whenever possible, Scouts share a tent with one or more other Scouts. We avoid having a Scout sleep alone whenever possible. Adults do not eat or tent with a Scout patrol.
Adult Tenting & Meals - Adults tent with the adults in a campsite separate from the youth patrols, but close enough to provide a safety oversight. The adults plan their own menu, and cook and eat together as a team. The troop's youth leadership, typically three boys, has its own tent within the camping area and eats with the adults.
Adult / Youth Tenting - BSA youth protection policies forbid an adult and a youth (below age 18) sharing the same tent. While these youth protection policies allow a father and son to tent together (if no other Scout or adult shares the tent), it is troop guideline that Scouts tent with Scouts, and adults with adults. If a father tents with his son, it is our experience that the Scout will lose out on many opportunities to make decisions and be part of the patrol.
Scout Leadership - Adults should not interfere with the functioning of youth leaders, even if they make mistakes (we all learn best from our mistakes). Step in only if it is a matter of immediate safety or if the mistake will be immediately costly. If at all possible, involve a uniformed adult leader first.
Scout Growth - Never do anything for a Scout he can do for himself. Let him make decisions without adult interference. Let him make non-injurious mistakes so he can learn from them. Be willing to help Scouts learn and teach without criticism.
Adult Training & Resources - The Boy Scouts of America provides an outstanding handbook for adults and an excellent training course to help us understand the goals of Scouting and how to attain them. The adult manual is called the Scoutmaster's Handbook, and it's worth your time to become familiar with it. Mandatory adult training for individuals who will be active with youth is offered in our area several times a year. It's also a good investment of your time. Troop 1999 strongly encourages each of it's uniformed adult leaders to be familiar with the Scoutmaster Handbook, and requires that each completes several specific training classes.
Rationale
Boy Scout camping activities are based on what the BSA calls the patrol method, where Scouts learn teamwork, leadership, and most camping skills from their peers. It is important that adults not be in the middle of patrol activities such as site selection, tent pitching, meal preparation, and anything else where boys get to practice decision-making.
A key difference between Boy Scouting and Cub Scouting/Webelos is youth leadership. Look for the word "leader" in a Scout's job description, and you will begin to appreciate the difference. The responsible person for a Cub/Webelos den is the adult Den Leader. The responsible person for a Boy Scout patrol is the youth Patrol Leader.
This isn't token leadership. A Patrol Leader has real authority and genuine responsibilities. Much of the success, safety, and happiness of six to ten other boys depends directly on him.
Boy Scouting teaches leadership. And Scouts learn leadership by practicing it, not by watching adults lead.
So what do we adults do, now that we've surrendered so much direct authority to boys? Well, we have a really good time and still stay busy.
The underlying principle is worth repeating: Never do anything for a boy that he can do for himself. We allow boys to grow by practicing leadership and by learning from mistakes. And, while Scout skills are an important part of the program, what ultimately matters when our Scouts become adults is not how well they remember to use a map & compass, but whether or not they know how to offer leadership to others in tough situations; and that they live by a code of conduct that centers on honest, honorable and ethical behavior.
When a parent goes on a campout, he or she is automatically included as a temporary member in the "Hills Brothers" Patrol. This patrol has several benefits - really, really good food and camaraderie while providing an example the Scouts can follow without having to tell them what to do. The "Hills Brothers" Patrol tents some distance from the youth ... that way they aren't right next to a boy patrol where our mere presence could disrupt the learning process.
If you go camping with us, we hope you will visit the patrol sites, talk to your son and the other Scouts, ask what's going on and how things are going. At the same time, remember to give the guys room to grow while you enjoy the view.
Don't hesitate to show a Scout how to do something, just don't do it for him. Don't jump in just to prevent a mistake from happening (unless it's serious or involves safety). Encourage Scouts to make their own decisions ... ask them what they think should be done or how THEY are going to solve a problem. We all learn best from our mistakes and a big part of our job as adults in the troop is to provide them with a SAFE environment in which they can make mistakes.
And above all, remember to let the youth leaders lead. That's their job, not ours.
Camping with the troop is more fun than you probably imagine and is something you should do if you can. The "Hills Brothers" Patrol is made up of men and women who are committed to being a part of the troop and contributing to it's health. Everyone pitches in and the workload is shared.
This page last modified on Thursday, April 03, 2008 11:21 pm
